Confessions

I was just lying on my bed earlier…supposedly reviewing my notes for exams and then the inevitable happen, my mind wander off without warning again. And I began thinking about gatherings….yes, situations where relatives all come together to celebrate festivals n birthdays, where old friends who haven’t seen each other for quite some time to meet up for reunion. In all these situations, a common question will always pop up. ‘Hi! So….do u have a bf/gf now?’ it wasn’t the question that provokes my thinking but the responses. How come if one answer ‘yes’, people will say great but if it’s a ‘no’, u will find urself answering another common follow-up question, ‘How come?’. There could be a million or trillion answers to that question but its the way that the question is asked in a tone that implies….’u poor thing’. Anyway it doesn’t matter which answers u give, whether ur happy being single, or ur not looking for one, or u just want to take things as they come, their mind is already categorizing u in the ‘unhappy’ category – the one who has yet to find eternal happiness.

Sad isn’t it, not for the people out there who are not part of the dating society but sad for those people who think that the degree of happiness is based on progress of one’s love life.

What exactly is it that u can get from ur other half that u cant get others? Let me explore the various things that we need in our life n see what’s the role of a man in the life of a woman or vice versa. Communication is important since we have social needs, but in the case of a best friend versus boyfriend, don’t u tink that u tell more things to ur gfriends than u would to ur bf, intimate stuff u would never reveal to the other gender? So communication wise, man doesn’t provide higher or even same level of satisfaction… next is the need to love n feel loved, pray tell what’s the role ur parents have been playing in ur life since u were born…. Duh! They have been loving n protecting u every second of ur life, won’t it make more sense to reciprocate their love first? Basic needs, the necessary things u need to stay alive, like food, water. So correct me if im wrong but if ur financially independent, all these stuff can be obtained without the help of a man. Of course there’s some roles that need to be filled in by the other half; namely sex n to negate the fear of growing old alone. When I come to understand the real drivers behind a love relationship, suddenly it seems so insignificant to many other things that’s happening in one’s life.

In yesterdays Newpaper, a columnist mentioned something that I truly agree. She said ‘Feelings can change, people can stray, love can fade but life will still goes on’. Don’t let ur life be based on others, it should revolve around u…after all it is ur life. Always look out for number one, numero uno – Moi!

Bless all n the next time someone says ‘no’, stop for a while n juz say ‘Cool’ =)